tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81542974520262900112024-03-05T00:37:22.163-08:00Fribbles and JotsLife is one big journey, full of twists, turns, ups, downs, and in-betweens. There is joy, pain, happiness, and sadness. But ultimately, life is a shower of infinite colors. Which one will touch you next? This is part of one girl's journey through life, love, and finding her voice.Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-32795761562799186702011-07-22T15:57:00.000-07:002011-07-22T15:57:31.176-07:00Change<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am in the midst of a medication change and it has been quite like hell for me. I have been depressed, anxious, and nervous beyond belief for weeks now, coming close to the brink of admitting myself to the hospital. It makes me wonder if it was worth it. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But that's the thing about change. We NEED change in our lives. And most times, change is for the better. And if it's not immediately better, it turns better and evens out in the end. Right? At least that's how my life up to this point has gone - I think. I'm still waiting for that "evening out" phase after my major meltdown and withdrawal from society. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I just think I need to have a more positive view on this medication change. Perhaps if I can look at it as just that: "change" it won't be so scary. It's temporary. The pain and frustration does not have to be the end of me (although sometimes I'm convinced it will be). I can weather this storm like the many storms before it and come out the other side better, healthier, more whole. Well, at least that's what I'm hoping for. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Change is scary, for sure. But maybe if I embrace it and look to the future, I'll have a better outlook. And you know what? That's good enough for me for now. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-80470817826383573812011-06-21T08:54:00.000-07:002011-06-21T08:54:05.259-07:00Slow and Steady Wins the Race<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Recently, maybe in the last month or so, I've been getting increasingly more antsy. I'm starting to <i>want</i> to do things. Me! Wanting to do things! I know, it's shocking. After years of no motivation, no inspiration, and no <i>drive </i>to speak of, I find myself wanting to be out of the house, away from this comfort zone I have created. It's pretty profound. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But… there's a "but." I am still lacking in creativity and energy. I'm still struggling with the motivation side of things. I want to do things, but I don't know WHAT to do. I don't know WHERE to go. Or HOW to get where I want to be. It's the "who's, what's, where's, when's and why's" that are failing me. So I stay home. I stay in my comfort zone that is quickly turning into quick sand. I feel myself sinking. I'm fading and failing. I disappoint myself every day that I do not <i>DO</i> something. It's been really frustrating. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But with the help of some outside observers, I am starting to try to take a positive approach to this. This may in fact be progress! Could it be? Progress? Could I be feeling better? Me? I don't know! I never thought of it that way! I just thought this was another hurdle to overcome. And yes, yes it is a hurdle, but this could be a GOOD hurdle! This could be one that I want to jump! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So we liken it to someone in physical therapy. You wan to run right away, but you need to take slow, baby steps. Or a kite that wants to soar but is still tethered to the ground. My spirt wants to soar. My heart wants to run. But my body just needs a little nudging, a little help, and a lot of patience. I get tired quickly when I'm actually out of the house. But I'm getting out of the house. I'm finding it difficult to think of things to do, but I want to do things. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So maybe, just maybe, I need to put a positive spin on this. Instead of getting uncomfortable with these new feelings, I need to embrace them. I need to nurture my heart's desire to do more, be more, become more. Because in the end, isn't it all part of healing? </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Me. Healing. I'm scared to even think it's possible. But I must think it's possible. I need to believe. Me. Healing. It just may be happening! </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-69255183257268519262011-06-15T10:47:00.000-07:002011-06-15T10:47:05.710-07:00Wall Bouncer Extraordinare<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So I woke up this morning at 7:30. Bright and early. Wide awake. Not quite sure why, but I decided to get up and enjoy the day instead of trying to force myself back into slumber. I'm glad I did. It doesn't happen often that I'm up early and WANT to be up, so I am glad I got up. But it didn't take long for me to start bouncing off the walls. You see, last week was full of stress and disaster after a broken hot water heater flooded the finished basement. Thankfully, I rent. So I wasn't responsible for anything. But still. It was a HUGE disruption, and for two days (that were ridiculously HOT!) I was stuck in the house, in the hot living room, unable to move from the couch because I was waiting for people to come in to fix it. It was torture. Don't get me wrong, I don't do a lot on a regular day anyway, but to be TRAPPED like that really stressed me out, not to mention wanting to make sure it all got fixed and I did right by the owners. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Fast forward to today. I'm up early, and after last week's chaos, I was desperate to get out of the house. So I went! I hopped on the bus and went into Center City Philadelphia to look for some things I'd been wanting. It felt GREAT! I was out, I was alive, and I was enjoying myself. This is unheard of. Usually I'm glued to the house with little to no motivation. Today was a rarity and I actually took advantage of it! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But I got tired. Fast. The temperature is only in the 70's but it felt like it was mid-80's to me. Hot. I was a sweaty mess within minutes. Blegh. It's a curse. The extra weight on my body doesn't help I'm sure. But I had to fight the disappointment I was feeling having gotten tired so fast. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">You see… this is going to be a process - a LONG process. I want so desperately to have a life again, but I'm constantly reminded just how far I have to go before getting there. So I savor days like today. I savor those moments that I actually WANT to get out and CAN get out. Disappointment or not, I'm proud of myself today. It's the small things in life, totally.</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-73556151964265078362010-10-30T08:58:00.000-07:002010-10-30T08:58:21.420-07:00Who AM I?<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;"><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">When I was young, and something went wrong, I was usually sent to my room to think about what I did to cause such a thing to happen. A perfect example of this would be when I lost a friend or someone was mean to me and I would come home crying. I would be told I need to think about what I did to make them not like me. It was detrimental to my confidence, and still lingers with me. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But I have seen several places - whether it's read or heard or seen - that much of what you do not like in other people, many of the strong reactions you have toward other people's actions are because you, yourself, in fact possess those qualities and that is why they are so grating. Is this really true? And if so, to what extent? </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I struggle with this a great deal. I am a highly reactive person. My nerves are grated easily, and I'm a plethora of buttons to be pushed. So I'm constantly trying to take a step back and say to myself "Is this happening because I possess the same quality and do the same thing?" Where does it end? What is the guideline for such a skill - to notice that what you don't like in someone else is in fact something you do yourself? It makes me crazy sometimes. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Am I rude? Am I abusive? Do I not listen? Am I not present in conversation? Do I expect too much? Do I want too much? Am I unrealistic? AM I UNREALISTIC?? At what point do we stop dreaming and start doing? (Side tangent.) </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But back to the matter at hand. People grate my nerves. And it does not take much. So I think, what have I done to make them react to me in such a way? And then I think, do I possess that annoying characteristic? And then… I'm just lost. I'm lost for who I really am. I am constantly questioning myself. I would like to think that I am a caring, considerate, present person. But am I really? Am I just plain selfish like I've been told my whole life? </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I recently had a conversation with my sister about possibly needing a good, swift kick in the ass to get myself back to better. And my sister said she doesn't know how to give me a good kick in the ass because she doesn't know how to kick herself in the ass. Does that mean I <i>do</i> need a kick in the ass? (Side tangent #2.) </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Who am I? And am I the only person who is secretly paranoid about what she's doing and how she's interacting with other people to the point of embodying everything she hates?</div></span></span>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-29649062908739584902010-10-18T11:58:00.000-07:002010-10-18T11:58:09.276-07:00Weekend Support and Inspiration<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;"><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So I did it. I decided to jump right in and follow my heart. I created a Facebook support page called Stop Living the Stigma, following my recent blog post and some great feedback I have received on it. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Did I do the right thing? Who knows, but I have nothing to lose. I thought that despite the many Facebook support pages out there, this one may have its own touch. We will see what kind of following (if any) I receive! I'm excited, and have had fun with it so far. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But I must remember, that I'm not always going to feel as good and inspired as today. So what do I do on those days? Well, hopefully I will look back on my past posts and find comfort and inspiration from them. If not, I absolutely must be kind to myself and give myself time to heal. Because that's what the page is all about. And I'm hoping, that I will be comfortable enough on the page to be honest with my friends, and tell them if I'm just not feeling myself that day. Perhaps <i>they</i> can help keep the page going. After all, that's what I was looking for! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So I did it! I followed my heart and took a leap into the unknown. I can't wait to see what happens. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">In other news, I had an amazing weekend with my fiance, Tony. We didn't do anything except for grocery shopping and lazing around. It was wonderful. I did find myself a little emotional and snippy Saturday, and finally I started talking and it all came out. A lot has been on my mind. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I told you in my last post that he admitted to being jealous of me being home. Well, I finally admitted to him that this compounded the guilt I already felt of being home and not working myself. He felt bad. And I felt bad that he felt bad. He never meant for it to be taken upon myself as another stressor. Poor guy. But the great part about it, is it led me to talk more about everything else that's been on my mind, and how stressed out I have been feeling. He actually thanked me for being so open with him. It's times like these that I realize just how lucky I am, and just how much pressure I put on myself. I constantly hold it all in, and stress and stress and stress, much to the detriment of my mental health. It comes out as snippy and bitchy in the end. It's a terrible habit. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But he <i>does</i> love me. He <i>does</i> want to marry me. And he's not even thinking of the possibility that this could be a forever situation. He's just enjoying the here and now… with <i>me!</i> I have already learned so much from him. And I look forward to learning so much more. </div></span></span>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-35540295360798456702010-10-09T09:59:00.000-07:002010-10-09T09:59:05.614-07:00Stop Living the Stigma - My Story<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;"><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">It's time I face facts. I am mean to myself. Really mean. I have been my whole life. I hate to say it because I do love my mother dearly, but I know a lot of it comes from my upbringing. She was pretty unstable, and very nasty. I grew up feeling like the scum on the bottom of the scum on the bottom of the Earth - sometimes worse. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I never felt like I did anything right. Or just when I thought I did something right, some how it was just wrong enough that it warranted a tongue lashing. I never understood. Even to this day, at 31 years of age, I get tongue lashings over things I do or have done. It's unbearably frustrating. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So that's what I learned. And that's what I have accepted in my life - until now. Because let's be honest, deep down, despite those nagging voices and negative thoughts, I know in my <i>soul</i> that I am doing well. I know I'm not always wrong. I can't <i>always</i> be wrong, right? No. "No, Carrie, you need to give yourself more credit." </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Even now as I write this, I feel uneasy. I do not like giving myself credit for good things, or progress, or success. I don't feel worthy. But I'm working really hard to recognize when I do accomplish something. Right now, I'm accomplishing this post, this wide-open-heart post; I'm bearing my soul. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Enter Bipolar Disorder. I was angry at first. Then I thought I accepted it and had it all figured out. Then it took me for a ride. Doctors, endless medication combinations, lost jobs, and a hospitalization. Just for fun, let's throw a relationship in there to see if it can get any more exciting… er, challenging! (Insert sarcasm.)</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I still was bringing in money to the household through unemployment, but I was not prepared for the guilt I would feel of not working. Then Disability comes in and I'm ecstatic! But more guilt sets in. Because I'm not a poster child for someone who stays home all day. I don't do the dishes all the time. I'm slow to do laundry. I do not clean. My lifeline is my computer and my friends on Facebook. TV helps sometimes, music also, but I do not leave the house except to go to the corner store for soda. Going to the doctor or counselor is a <i>huge </i>feat for me. It means leaving the house (with real clothes on, not pjs), catching the bus, then catching the train, then walking a few blocks, then waiting in an uncomfortable waiting room, then pouring my heart out to a practical stranger, then leaving feeling wilted and bruised only to have to catch a train and and then a bus home. Then I have to face the rest of the guilty day at home. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I beat myself up something fierce! Oh man. I may have inadvertently been brought up to think the worst of myself, but I was also brought up to be a competent, independent, responsible adult. Leaning on others was not acceptable. Asking for help was unheard of. So to have to accept that I am "unable" to work? Wow, that's a doozy. I still struggle with it after a year of not working. I know the reality of it. I know that the stress becomes too much for me, I fall into a depression or mixed episode and am unreliable and very edgy. But why? Why can't I work? And if I'm not working, shouldn't I be taking care of the house? </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">My fiance (bless him) finally confessed to me recently that he is jealous that I get to spend my days at home - that he would give anything to have 5 minutes of the peace he sees on my face sometimes. It broke my heart. I feel guilty every minute of every day for being home and not being a functioning member of society. I feel guilty every minute of every day for sitting on my fat ass not cleaning the house, not trying HARDER to get out and make something of myself. Only, I know when I do try harder, I get overwhelmed and fall into an episode again. But I still feel guilty. Something should be different here. Something is not right. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I have no idea how to balance it all. I just don't. I'm trying, and every time I think I'm getting somewhere, another rock hits me in the side of the head and I have to figure out that bump in the road. "That's life?" I don't entirely believe that. I do believe that life can be better than this. I refuse to accept that this is my "fate." I will continue to work on it. I will continue to try to learn what's going to be best for me and all others involved. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But this is why this "movement" is so dear to my heart. I have endless compassion for other people. I can see strength and beauty in them where they cannot. So why can I not extend the same love and compassion to myself? Is it society's demands? Is it a lack of understanding on the part of those who are dear to my heart? Maybe. But I think it also needs to exist within. If we cannot give love to ourselves, who is going to give us love? If we do not find ourselves deserving of the best? How can we ask others to give it to us? How do we know they are giving us what we need, if we ourselves do not <i>know</i> what we need? </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I suppose that's my point in the whole matter. I am learning to love myself for who I am. I am learning to love myself despite my illness. I am not bipolar disorder. I am not a weakling. I am strong, and I am capable. I know this at the depths of my being. I can <i>feel</i> it. It is time. It is time to eliminate all the negativity that has plagued me my whole life. What better time than the present to start? What better time than when I'm feeling at my weakest, my most vulnerable? There is only one person in this world who can truly make a difference in my life - and that's me. From where I stand, I have nothing to lose. </div></span></span>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-36048757275765424652010-10-08T07:12:00.000-07:002010-10-08T07:12:51.279-07:00Stop Living the Stigma<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">There's a problem in the Mental Illness World that I feel needs to be addressed. We are fighting so hard to fight the stigma associated with mental illness. There are groups and organizations all over the world that are working to fight misconceptions of mental illness and what it means for those living with it. But I keep finding a recurring ailment among my friends living with mental illness that hurts me to the core: we are living the stigma we are fighting so hard to eliminate! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So what does that mean? Well, it means we are hard on ourselves, painfully brutal with ourselves for not living up to society's expectations - me included. Not working, not being "able" to work, not bringing in a substantial income, not cleaning the house, doing laundry, doing dishes, socializing, getting out of the house, or just a simple lack of energy because of our mental illness that causes us immense pain! It hurts me so much to hear my friends suffering with this. I, too, struggle with these thoughts and self-criticisms on a daily basis. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I think we need to band together. I think we need to help one another to stop living the stigma we are fighting so hard to eliminate in other people. How are we going to be an example of what NOT to do when we do it to ourselves every minute of the day? </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I know, this will not be an easy task by any means. We stigmatize ourselves greater than most of our biggest critics. But it is so unhealthy for us. The negativity that we allow to permeate our beings is hurtful, it's harmful, and it needs to stop. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I have no idea how to do it other than to try to re-train our brains. We need to embrace what we're telling other people to accept about us and accept it within ourselves. We need to be kind to ourselves, love ourselves, and support ourselves, because we are our own best advocates. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I was recently accused of wanting unrealistic support based on what someone close to me was taught at a NAMI meeting. It was perhaps one of the most hurtful things this person could have ever accused me of, because I work <i>so</i> hard on learning what I need, what I don't need, and finding a balance between the two. And it changes. It changes with my mood changes. And I am ONE individual. Every person dealing with mental illness is different. But ultimately, I believe we each know what our needs are, and we need to fight for them. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So let's start a movement to stop living the stigma. Are you with me? </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">To be continued...</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-27596009788896523112010-10-07T05:52:00.000-07:002010-10-07T05:52:11.419-07:00The Newness of Heart<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">It's October! Wow, when did that happen? I'm so glad. The weather is finally right up my alley - cool, breezy, and even sunny today after a few days of miserable, cold, rain! I'm very excited. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Welcome to my new blog! There are a lot of posts I brought over from my old blog so that I would not lose them. The last few are pretty powerful and full of pain, so beware if you decide to read them! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So, where do I start? I feel full of light and inspiration today and it's so refreshing. I've been through a lot the last few weeks. At times, I feel like I've been to hell and back. That tends to happen after the deep throws of an episode. This last episode was a doozy on its own, with some external factors exacerbating my symptoms. Very frustrating. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I want this to be a new start. Actually, each emergence from a bad episode is a new start. Each time I am stronger, freer, and more inspired. That's the beautiful part of being bipolar or having mental illness in general: the strength and tenacity you learn, and the beauty that comes after each bad episode or depression. Life is so much lighter, brighter, and more beautiful when I'm able to breathe freely again. It's like drawing new breath each time. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I truly loathe the agony of a depressive or mixed episode. It's so difficult. But coming out of it feels like I'm a phoenix, rising from the ashes. I brush off the remaining ash, and rise above to greet the new day. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">This is how I wish I could live my whole life. I'm working on it. When I'm feeling this inspired, I work hard to take in as much as I can, because I know if or when I fall again, I will have a very difficult time seeing the light. It is scary to say the least. But I cannot deny the immense LIFE I feel afterward. It's almost like I needed to go through that to re-gain perspective. I don't know. I could be making no sense. It's been a while since I've shared my thoughts, and has been a while since I've felt like this. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I worry that as easily as I'm saying these things, my mood can change for the worse. It has happened before. But I hope that my mental state is stronger than that today. I have been battling a cold, but despite that have been feeling better mood-wise. Today marks day #2. Yes, I count days. The best part is when the days turn into weeks. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br />
</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I really hope this is the start of something new. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-85060580067614220222010-09-29T11:20:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.446-07:00Misunderstood<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So many things are going on right now. And they're all going on in my brain. I can't seem to slow it down. I can't seem to make it "behave" the way a "normal" brain would. My brain just wants to wreak havoc on the entire neighborhood. That neighborhood people, is my life. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So I thought I was getting better. Time for rest, time for reflection, time for positive thoughts and feelings was exactly what I needed and hey! It worked! "Ehh… not so fast" says my brain. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">My moods are misfiring all over the Universe it feels like. One minute I'm fine. The next minute I think I'm going to totally lose my shit. The next minute I'm calmer but worried that if anything else goes wrong or irritates me, I will most definitely LOSE MY SHIT!</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Yep, the life of a mixed episode, rapid cycling bipolar. Sounds like fun, huh? Not so much. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I feel like not only do I not understand what is going on within my psyche, but others don't get it either. I don't blame them. How in the world is someone else supposed to understand what's going on with me if I can't TELL them what's going on with me! I mean really, Carrie. Let's get a grip here. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Thank the Lord and all that is Holy for my doctor. I talked to her again today and she assured me that I am not getting worse, I am just having a "normal" (for me) mood fluctuation that is exacerbated by external stressors. Okay. Makes sense. But wait, it still doesn't make it better! SIGH. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So I'm waiting. I'm trying to be patient, but there goes that whole "losing of shit" fear again: agitation over practically nothing. Yeah, that's a fun one. Sitting here in the calm of the day, feeling worse and worse even though I'm doing the things I love most. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I cleaned the bathroom today. Woke up feeling better and HAD to do something productive. Then my mood plummeted. Again. Up, down, up, down, up, down. In mere minutes I go from pleasant to poltergeist. Yep, minutes. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I'm trying to ride through this, but there's too much going on. I can't seem to control myself. I can't seem to keep my shit together. This roller coaster is getting a little too wild for my likes. The last five days have been hell. No medication changes needed, thank goodness. No emergency hospitalization either. Just the overwhelming challenge of riding these rapids lies ahead. I don't deal with stress well at all, especially emotional stress. Too many things are taxing my heart strings and it's making me miserable because I don't know what to do about them. And I know that the road ahead is going to be a long one. Perhaps that is the reason I am rebelling at the moment - because I'm not happy that I am not going to BE happy for some time to come. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">There's a five branch fork in the road ahead of me right now. I'm so confused...</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-89755955064580638992010-09-27T07:01:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.459-07:00Coming Back<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Wow, what a ride! Last week was quite a challenge for me. I was met with a continually worsening low mood and many frustrations on top of that. Actually, I thought I was getting better Friday, but that was the worst day of all. Saturday was just the icing on the cake. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Have you ever had times like these? Sometimes I find myself sitting here, scratching my head, thinking "What the hell just happened?" Over the weeks preceding, I thought I was getting better and better at being positive and having a better outlook on things. But after several aggravations, I finally broke. I finally lost control and got ugly. I am not proud of that. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">However, I need to be kind to myself. Ugly or not, I was hurting. And when a trigger comes along that's strong enough to break me, I need to realize that it was just that - a trigger - and I can overcome. I wasn't so sure I could overcome last week. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But Monday is upon me: a new day, a new week, a new beginning. I have had time to think, time to sleep, and time to regain some of the strength I feel I lost, if only for a moment. Quite frankly, I am proud of myself that I did not fall into the dark abyss for more than just a night and a day. In fact, it was only a span of hours where I felt really hopeless. The rest I was just hurt and angry. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I want to let it go. I want to release the anger and move on. Anger does me no good. It only makes me toxic. And that is unacceptable to me. So despite the gray, rainy day, I invite positivity and light back into my house. I am ashamed that I let the negativity consume me so quickly. Then again, it was not easy by any means. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I feel lighter again. I feel healthier again. I am going to draw from some of my resources to get back to "me" again. What you saw in my last post was not the me I want to be. Not by far. I refuse to let the anger, frustration, and sadness take over my life like that for longer than it already has. I am better than that. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So, "Hello New Day…" I can't wait to see what you have in store for me.</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-59245054954147249402010-09-25T06:47:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.471-07:00A Correction<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">After some feedback from one of (or perhaps my only) readers, I feel the need to add to my last post. Because maybe me being "honest" will make them feel better.</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">The REASON money is a big issue at the moment is because I went on a spending spree for my birthday. Yes, me. It's all my fault that I do not have the money to afford my doctor or counselor right now. And it's absolutely driving me CRAZY.</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I feel horrible. I feel irresponsible. I was not trying to lie, or deceive by not offering up this information in my last post. My last post was about how I was feeling. Money being tight was not the reason for my last post, it was the catalyst. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But let's be "honest," right? I have failed. I have failed myself and my fiance. I have failed my doctors and my counselors. And most importantly, because I failed myself, I have failed my health. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Every - single - thing I said in my last post I feel every day with or without money. Let's just put that up front. Yes, I experience roadblocks. And they're frustrating. The particular roadblock of getting a letter about fees being raised came at the wrong time. I was already worried about money (AT MY OWN DOING - ugh). I was having a frustrating day to top it off, and then I got the letter. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I'm not sure if anyone who reads my blog knows much about triggers. But triggers are a BIG part of being bipolar. One thing, one small little thing can send a bipolar spiraling into the dark abyss. That happened to me yesterday. It was a trigger on top of many others I was able to dodge. But this one stuck. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">To top it off, my fiance and I are now fighting. Because why? Because yet again, I wanted too much. I EXPECTED too much from him. I could not just accept that he needed some time to himself and therefore I got selfish and needy and we ended up in a huge fight. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I need to much. I want too much. I spend too much. And I expect too much. Because some how, now matter how hard I try, except for the comfort of my doctor and counselor, I am constantly met with people telling me I am too selfish. And now, that I am not being honest with myself. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So there you go. Honesty. I honestly feel like I am fucking up my life and I have no control and have NO idea how to fix it. There you have it. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-49446791392226738052010-09-24T11:53:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.483-07:00Unraveling From Within<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I feel like sometimes we are tested to our limits. And today, I just reached mine. I'm not sure what to say. It was just the straw that broke the camel's back for me today. I got a letter from my doctor's office telling me they are raising their fees. What's most frustrating is the timing of the whole thing. Money is a big issue at the moment. So much so, that I cancelled both my doctor and my counselor because I couldn't afford them this month. Then I find out fees will be raised starting in November. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I feel like I'm unraveling from deep within my core. Yes, I am worried and fearful of the fee change. But what is keeping the tears from stopping this afternoon is how hard I feel I work to better myself and my health, and it feels like it's just one roadblock after another. I finally get to a stage where I feel like I'm GETTING somewhere. I'm feeling more positive. I'm happier, I'm healthier, I'm breathing easier and smiling more. I'm more patient. I'm less hostile. I am finding blessings in the smallest of things. So why? Why am I met with challenge after challenge? It just doesn't seem fair. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Yeah… "this is life," right? Well, I'm sorry if it seems selfish of me to want better for myself. I try so hard, SO HARD to change my perceptions. I try to keep calm and keep "sane" when sometimes I just want to go off the deep end. Do you know how hard that is? Do you know how hard it is to live your life one step away from the edge? I try so hard, especially lately, not to dwell on it. I try to accept that challenges will always lie in my path, it's how I choose to overcome them that matters. And it's the fact that I choose to overcome them that matters most, that I choose to stand up and fight and not give up. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Today I made a vow to continue to work to create a better, healthier me. But sometimes, I wonder if I'm strong enough. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am used to providing for my partnership. I am used to bringing home a solid income. I am used to being able to eat and not count every single penny that comes into my bank account. I am <i>not</i> used to the two weeks of anxiety that consume me before my next Disability payment. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I want to believe I will overcome this too. But my sorrows today, my tears and agony, come from the frustration of working so hard, and getting 10 steps ahead, only to fall 20 steps back. Another challenge. Another roadblock. Another obstacle to overcome. And my state of mind - my poor, fragile, unstable brain cannot take it all sometimes. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-26134706565284962092010-09-24T09:51:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.494-07:00I'm Melting<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I find this fascinating. I just had a difficult mood week. I was feeling low, down in the dumps, sad, just bad. But I was able to ride through it. I was able to "flow through the low" (my new favorite phrase), and today I am feeling lighter. It was another difficult time getting out of bed this morning. I wanted to sleep all day, but I got up, had my coffee, and I'm feeling better. It's such a relief. I feel like I'm slowly emerging out from behind the clouds today. It's a process. I am not up, jumping for joy. But I definitely feel better, lighter, happier. I feel like it's easier to smile, it's easier to move, it's easier to breathe. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Except for ONE thing. And it's been driving me crazy for months. And I'm not sure how to let go of this one thing. It is - the weather. It is warm. Not nearly as hot as it was earlier in the summer. But I feel like I've been waiting ALL SUMMER LONG for some form of relief from the heat and humidity. It's been the bane of my existence since it started. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">You see, I get very crabby in the heat. It makes me sweaty. And I hate being sweaty, because I feel gross. I feel dirty, smelly, slimy, and gross. The heat makes me uncomfortable. I cannot move without sweating. I cannot move without my body temperature rising and it's just unbearable to me for some reason. I realize, that I need to "flow through the low (or high)" of the heat. But how? I try to stay calm. I try to make myself more comfortable by sitting in front of fans. Sometimes, I even hole myself up in the bedroom, the only room with an air conditioner, just for some relief. But I feel cooped up in there. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Keep in mind, my life is conducted in my house. I do not get out of the house much, and on days where it's unbearably hot, I do not want to leave the house, because that means going out in the hot sun, sweating more, only… in public! Ugh. I cannot bear the thought of other people seeing me in such distress. I feel like they are looking at me thinking "what a fat slob - look at how badly she's sweating because she's so fat!" It's a curse.</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So how do I let the heat go? Because as I look at the weather forecast, it appears the more I look at it, the more warm days appear, as if there will never be an end in sight. Sure 78 is in the 70's, but it's still close to the 80's and that makes me frustrated. I get so agitated! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I've been begging Mother Nature to hear my calls for too long. So I have decided I have to change MY thinking and just grin and bear it. There is nothing I can do about the weather. Nothing. It is completely out of my control. So why do I fret about it so? Time to turn my frown upside down, and figure out how to get through this endless summer. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I have NO idea what to do. But I'm thinking. Perhaps gratefulness will help. I am grateful for the sunshine. I am grateful not to have to shovel 3 feet of snow. I am grateful to be able to wear flip flops. (No, you negative thoughts that are trying to creep in. I will not succumb to you!) It is beautiful out. Yes it's warm, but it is still beautiful. My housework can wait until a cooler time. Hopefully… HOPEFULLY we are only a couple weeks away from some relief. Ha! That's what I said a month ago. ((sigh)) Help. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-23712411993330980012010-09-23T07:30:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.505-07:00Do Not Disturb<div style="color: #333233; font: 13.0px 'Lucida Grande'; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 5.0px 0.0px;">Negative thoughts are knocking at my door. Some are even shouting out loud so I can hear which ones are trying to come in. I will not answer the door. Instead, I will open the window full of sunlight and encourage positivity to come in. Go away negative thoughts... you are not welcome here. You scare me and I do not like how you make me feel.</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-58539362436612057022010-09-22T07:15:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.516-07:00It's Okay to Have a Bad Day<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">One thing I have been working on since I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, is the unexpected (and unwanted) mood swings. I am ever thankful for the blessing that my swings are getting fewer and farther between, but they are still there, even if they are mild. And they still can be frustrating. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I have to be honest, I wondered what this week would bring after such a fun-filled weekend. It's not that I cannot have a fun, exciting time without some sort of downfall, but it's rare. And usually my fun has to be moderate in order to ward off a dip such as I'm feeling today and have been feeling since Monday night. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">What can I say? This is just part of being bipolar for me. It may change in the future, and I hope it does. I hope my level of activity and fun can intensify more and more with time without the inevitable dip. But right now, I am trying to honor how I am feeling, and although I am fighting the negative "depression inducing" thoughts, I am still letting myself flow with how I am feeling. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">What is hard for me to accept, is that it is <i>okay</i> to have a bad day. It is <i>okay</i> to feel low sometimes. I guess, having been in such a low state for so long - when I feel good I just want that to last forever, and it's hard for me to understand why, when I am working so hard to make it mean everything and take every moment in, why I can't just have it last. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But it doesn't last. Like the pendulum of life, so goes the pendulum of my brain and its chemicals. What I am trying to focus on today, is that despite feeling low, I am not text-book depressed. I am not killing myself with negative thoughts. I am not crying inconsolably. I am not berating myself to the point of feeling hopeless. And I am not suicidal. Those are all precious things to be thankful for. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I hope that this only lasts a brief amount of time. I pray. I'm going to do what I need to do to keep going through this. To "keep going" is the important thing, not give up.</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">The way I would like to think of the low I feel this time, is that I just had so much fun and fabulousness on the weekend and the week previous, that I just need some time to rest. This is my body and brain's way of telling me it's time to slow down, and take stock of where I am. And that's okay. It <i>has</i> to be okay. Because the more I make it not okay, the worse it gets. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So I'm okay. I'm just a little low. I'm a little tired. And I need some "me" time to regroup. It will be okay… right?</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-42515188363302976702010-09-19T19:57:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.529-07:00Thirty<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am not really sure where to start, or what to write about tonight. I am a mix of emotions. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Ultimately, however, I am feeling blessed beyond anything I knew I was capable of feeling. The love has flown intensely today, coming from people and places I never would have expected. I am ever thankful for the outpouring and feeling more special than ever. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But I would like to take a moment to reflect right now, I think. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">As I enter the next year in my life, I cannot help but think of the significance of the one I leave behind. I want to take so much from it. Yet, I also want to honor the fact that it is behind me and move on. It has been full of ups, downs, and in betweens. It has been terrifying at times, but has also been perhaps the most enlightening year of my life. 30 was a good age for me. I can only hope it was just the start of more blessings to come. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I left a job I loved because I was too ill to give it everything I had. I struggled with Disability applications in perhaps some of my darkest and most directionless days. One of the things I find so frustrating about living with mental illness, is that when we are at our near end, we are instructed to figure out our next path. There is no one to tell us what forms to fill out, what numbers to call, and what questions to ask. At least that has been my experience. It is beyond frustrating, and absolutely terrifying. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I did what I could with the resources at my disposal, and most importantly, what little strength and resilience I had left. The medication changes continued, but I finally found a new set of doctors (yes, a team) that knew what I was going through. There was hope, and that hope kept me going. But I just did not have enough strength to keep me going indefinitely, and I ended up in the hospital psych ward for the first time in my life. Yes, it was the most frightening experience of my life, but it also SAVED my life, and I am thoroughly convinced of that now. I will be eternally thankful not only for the doctors and nurses that helped me through that difficult transition, but I am also grateful for the knowledge I had within me that something needed to change, and I was not ready to give up just yet. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">It has been mostly a positive journey from that point on. I got on a new medication regime that worked better than anything before. Yes, I've had my ups and downs. I have had complications and road blocks. But I have had more strength than before to get through them. I have soldiered on. And on this journey, I have found friendship, kindness, compassion, and love. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I have become more active. I am happier. I smile more. I laugh more. I am more relaxed, and less sad, less angry, less agitated, and less hostile. I have felt at peace. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I have my days. Some are better than others. Some days I don't want to wake up still. But most days I enjoy getting up to have my coffee, even if it means <i>dragging</i> myself out of bed. Progress.</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Each day is still a constant body of work. The work that goes into each day, most "healthy" people would never understand. I work to maintain the peace I have felt. I work to be a better me. I work to just BE me. There is still darkness. But I choose to focus on the light. I choose to swallow 10 pills a day because it means some semblance of sanity for me. It means life, not death. It means light, not darkness. It means happiness, not sadness. No, pills do not fix it. Pills do not "make" me a better person. But they help put my chemicals in such a place that I can function the way I have longed to for a greater part of my life. They help me keep my hope. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">It has indeed been a very difficult year. But how can I not revel in a year that has opened my heart, made it bigger, fuller, and beat harder and stronger than ever? This has been a difficult year, but it has been <i>my</i> year. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So thank you, 30, for showing me a strength within myself I never knew I possessed. Thank you for opening my eyes to some of the greatest beauty I have been blessed to see, feel, and find faith in. You have been a good year, because you taught me how to start finding "me" again. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-3727430807535075652010-09-17T14:13:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.548-07:00I Am Me<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;"><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I'm in awe, and almost speechless. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Today started out very difficult. I slept in, because I was very tired. I woke up grumpy - very grumpy. I wasn't sure what to do with myself. I was frustrated by my pet turtle. I was frustrated with how I was feeling. I was just plain frustrated. I wasn't sure what to do. I wasn't sure how to make it better, and I so desperately wanted it to be better. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I had a counseling appointment that I did not want to go to. I was miserable! I wanted to stay cooped up in my house, not catching two busses to her office and then another two busses home. But I had to do it. I had already canceled my last appointment. I knew I needed this, even if I was miserable about going. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">The busses were crowded. They were stinky. But I got there. And as I walked through the door something struck me. I was GLAD to be there. I realized that even though I didn't want to go, it was a good thing to be there, and I was <i>okay</i> with being there. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Quickly into my appointment I was full of smiles. We talked about how I had been doing lately. And I said, I had been doing well! I looked back on my last two weeks, and apart from yesterday, I felt good about them. And even though I wasn't feeling my best yesterday, I flowed with it, and was okay with saying "it wasn't a good day." </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I laughed and smiled, and was thankful for everything that had been going on. I raved about the book I just read, the Power. I even had great laughs and smiles and heart warming emotion telling her about how much I love Tony and how much fun we have. It was wonderful. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I walked out of there renewed. I even stopped by the park to listen to some beautiful music two women were singing on a tiny stage. The music echoed off the large buildings surrounding Love Park, and it was magnificent. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I got home and caught up on Facebook, and was (as usual) met with wonderful posts, quotes, and smiles. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am home. I am comfortable. I am well. I am happy. And it all started with a birthday card from my mom that brought tears of pride to my eyes. Pride about myself. And a deep love and thankfulness to have her in my life, and to be living my life. I am living. I am me. </div></span></span>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-22842481761935967232010-09-16T07:20:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.566-07:00Thankful Thursdays<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Well, I'm feeling low today. And no, I'm not too sure how to handle it. I had some very good days recently. And this is hard to be feeling. I woke up this way - very tired, and wanting to sleep all day. I still managed to get out of bed, because I felt like it was the right thing to do, but even though I have checked my email and Facebook, I'm not feeling my usual morning uplift. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So, I will take a tool from my new book, and start counting my blessings: </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am thankful for getting up despite feeling very groggy and slow and tired. It was still nice to get out of bed, make my coffee, feed the turtle, and open the blinds. I am even enjoying the fact that it's a gray day outside so far. I find sometimes that endless sunshine is too much pressure. Lately I have truly been enjoying it, but I love the occasional gray, snuggly day. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">This morning when feeding Leona, she was being her usual silly self and Tony got a glimpse of it and laughed, hard. It was wonderful. I just love his laugh and smile. And to hear a laugh like that come out of him so early in the morning was awesome. I told him it's laughs like that she gives me every day and that's why I love her so much. I love that turtle. And that Tony! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am grateful for the message I saw on Facebook about letting the Universe answer your problems and not worrying. That is what happened for me yesterday. All is well now, and I am lighter one less worry. It's wonderful. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am thankful that one of my favorite songs just came on and I can sing along. I love singing, even if I don't have my gift anymore! It's still fun to sing out loud. Hehe!</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am thankful for the cool temps so far this morning. Perhaps I should go take a shower to start off my day. I'm stinky! </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So yes, I have plenty to be thankful for. My house, my bed, my coffee, my pet turtle, my amazing fiance, my comfortable clothes, the fact that I paid my bills yesterday, and on it goes. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I'm still feeling heavy, but my heart is lighter having taken a moment to remember all I am thankful for today. I hope the gratitude continues as the day wears on. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-33947384836929503002010-09-15T14:31:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.581-07:00I Can't Help Myself!<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I had to share. I just had to - and you'll see why.</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I decided to let the day go, to let the day flow away from me and stop fretting about the technical difficulties I was having, my loneliness, and my frustrations with my limitations. I was feeling low, tired, and sad. But I decided to let it go… to let it flow. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I realized after taking a gutsy step in sharing my blog on my Facebook page, that the day was not for me to know or predict. I could not change what each minute would do, but I could try to appreciate each minute of the rest of the day. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">The TV came off, the computer on my lap, and music flowed. I relaxed. I was one with my thoughts and feelings. I stopped fighting. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Within minutes I had to go upstairs, and I decided to try to give the computer/document problem I was having one more try. And you know what? When I relaxed into it, not knowing what would come of it but being <i>okay</i> if it did not go the way I wanted it to, I figured it out. Just like that. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Just like that I let the day go and just like that the day and the Universe handed me exactly what I wanted. I am in awe. Even one of my favorite songs came on, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gApK2lZlcCI">Over The Rainbow</a> by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">All I could do was smile. And let the peace settle into my heart.</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Ps: Just as I finished writing this, an ambulance went flying down the street and I started to smell smoke. I always get nervous when I smell smoke anywhere and so I stepped out on my front stoop to see where it was coming from. Smoke is thick down the street about a block away. I am praying that whatever it is, and whomever it involves, they are okay. Prayers.</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-34542776192415013562010-09-15T13:27:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.593-07:00Carrie Quote of the Day<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;"><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">It is not for me to know how the day will go. What's up to me is to make the most of each minute, even if that means relaxing with my thoughts and some good tunes.</div></span></span>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-26820607363055482822010-09-15T13:06:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.612-07:00Working Some Things Out...<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">My day started out <i>really</i> good, and positive. But I find myself fading this afternoon, and it's frustrating me. What I think I just realized, is that I need to stop, and let it flow. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I get so quickly frustrated with what I call "my limitations." Although I wake up feeling good, positive, and ready to conquer the day, quickly into doing anything that requires a great deal of concentration, or especially if I meet road blocks in my day where things aren't going like I'd hoped, I get frustrated. And the frustration frustrates me. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Frustration is a very negative emotion for me. Because it seems to breed itself. The more time I give to my frustration, the greater it becomes, until I have lost my positive mood all together. That is what I'm met with this afternoon. I'm tired. And I'm feeling low. And I have decided I need to address this. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am not flowing right now. I am not letting the day flow as it should, as it is intended to be. Yes, I've met some frustrations today, but there is no need for it to ruin my day. And there is no reason it should ruin my mood. I can still be a positive and happy being even though I am met with some bumps in the road. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">The flow of my day has been more rapids than a gentle creek. And I'm trying to slow it down to where I like it to be. I still have accomplished things - many things in fact that make me feel good. So I'm still thankful. I'm thankful for my Disability payment that enabled me to pay my bills. I am thankful for my electric bill that means I have electricity. I am thankful for my gas bill because it means I have warm water and can use my stove and heat my house if it were cold. I am thankful for my phone bill and the communication it stands for. I am thankful that I have a little extra so I could buy a new pair of shoes as a birthday present to myself. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I am thankful for my delicious lunch, for the sunshine and fresh air coming through my windows. I am thankful for the music streaming into my computer which brightens and calms my mood at the same time. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So yes, it is a good day, just a mellow afternoon. And I'm working to be okay with that. </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-25898898582738528362010-09-15T09:17:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.628-07:00Dear Dad,<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Today while browsing Facebook, I came across a post of a video of Peter, Paul, and Mary singing "Puff The Magic Dragon." I instantly thought of you. I remember not long after you died, sitting in Dave's house and he put a video on of you singing karaoke to this very song, and he told me it used to be one of your favorites. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">We so enjoyed watching that video. We had great laughs, and I recall (as I look back on it now) the amazing spirit of fun that surrounded you. That is what I most want to remember about you. I want to remember your silliness and fun. It's all people can talk about now that you are gone. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So I watched the video of Peter, Paul and Mary. And I listened intently to the words for the first time. And wow, the tears fell. What a great song, to be such a sad story but still have a light about it that makes it a fun song to sing along to. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I think about the pain you must have felt in your life. Mom and I talk about it from time to time. It's hard for me to overcome the guilt for the hatred I felt toward you for so many years. How I wish I could take it all back. But I cannot, and I have to have faith that all things happen in their own time, and with good reason. I still love you. You will always be my father. I will always carry with me the memories I have, especially those of your smile and silliness. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So today, Dad, I dedicate my love to you. Unexpectedly your spirit entered my day, and I am so glad for it as I approach my 31st birthday. I am so thankful that you impacted the lives of those close to me so much, that they can tell me stories of you full of fun and happiness. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Dealing with my own demons, I feel genuine pain and sorrow for anything similar you had to endure yourself. But I hope some day, we will reunite in the Heavens, and have a good many laughs over all our successes in life. You may have felt like a failure, but the more I learn about you, the more I realize you were a success beyond your recognition. And I just love it. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Thank you for the memories. And thank you for loving me, even though you weren't sure how to show it. I may not have known it growing up, but I know it now. Your spirit is with me always. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I love you, </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Carrie</div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-91156554602211424582010-09-14T13:30:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.641-07:00Things That Made Me Smile Today...<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;"><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Seeing something so great on my television that I clapped enthusiastically from my couch!</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Realizing it's only five days until my birthday and figuring out that I can have mimosas to celebrate that morning!</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Finding my "Why God Made Little Girls" poem plaque while doing a little tidying up of my overwhelming beauty product supply!</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">Usher's new song, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watchv?v=C-dvTjK_07c"><span style="color: #1d37ef; text-decoration: underline;">DJ Got Us Fallin' In Love ft. Pitbull</span></a> just makes me want to boogie the more I hear it!</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">And the quote of the day: "I could be a victim or victor…" ~Wynonna Judd. She chose to be victorious, and so do I!</div></span></span>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-17674367821847484112010-09-12T14:56:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.666-07:00Smiles on Sundays Cont...<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">This has provided me perhaps the biggest smiles yet today. Tony's been his usual silly self, and when I opened a beer, this is what I got… and presented to him. What can I say? It was impossible to resist!</div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifXakVpD0AjezdQZpw2erXseHbGWN6ABIlHNwzReygJLPBhoDnNKd0x3tfEXqTkfj-mYVX2pOH4lG14mu5pzRqUUXsTWPc2WizIXC2gN91hbA0IHAutcpIKhQbYialx3EqzFxDUcOMG6M/s1600/CrapCap.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifXakVpD0AjezdQZpw2erXseHbGWN6ABIlHNwzReygJLPBhoDnNKd0x3tfEXqTkfj-mYVX2pOH4lG14mu5pzRqUUXsTWPc2WizIXC2gN91hbA0IHAutcpIKhQbYialx3EqzFxDUcOMG6M/s320/CrapCap.jpg" width="214" /></a></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><br /></div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8154297452026290011.post-10464850436495630892010-09-12T10:21:00.000-07:002010-10-07T04:32:14.676-07:00Smiles on Sundays<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I'm having a hard time today. On Sundays I LOVE to write about smiles, but my smiles seem hard to come by for some reason this afternoon. I feel like I'm oozing negativity, and that alone is making me more negative. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I've been up since an early 6:30am, woken up from a bad, ghost-filled dream. I was so skittish after that dream, I even turned the lights on. But I got up and made my coffee, and had quite a few giggles over the turtle not being sure what was going on because I was up so early. She never gets fed that early, but knew that since I was up, food must be coming soon. She slowly got more and more frisky, climbing on her log and kerplunk-kerplunking to get my attention. It was pretty cute. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I enjoyed the morning. It was quiet and rainy. My coffee was good and it was even cool enough that I could have oatmeal for breakfast. I haven't had oatmeal in some time. Late-morning, while waiting for my mom to call and Tony to wake up, I started reading my book, <a href="http://www.thesecret.tv/thepower">The Power</a>. It had me feeling pretty good. I stuck with it until it got into the tools to use to find more positivity in your life, and how to attract what you want in life. I thought, "I can do this," and even started the imagination process. When Tony came downstairs, I closed the book and was feeling good, ready to make some breakfast for the two of us. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">But after an hour or so, I felt the negativity seeping in. It's been getting worse and worse. I feel edgy. I feel irritable. And I feel bitchy. All of which I despise. And that, in itself, is doing the exact opposite of what the book was about: focusing on the positive. So I'm feeling frustrated. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">I suppose I need to remind myself that it's not a skill I'm going to learn in an hour. But the difficulty is that somehow, in my desires for the positive, I realized just how negative I am. Maybe it's part of the process. Let's just hope. I think perhaps I need to envision being more positive. Being healthy. Being happy. </div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><br /></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;">So let's try this: although my Sunday is feeling particularly negative, perhaps this is the start of finding more positive light in my life. Turn that negative around, yes? </div>Ceelynn Gibsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252405928201923045noreply@blogger.com0